I was reading off a thought catalog article, and I thought it is somewhat true hilarious to take a dig at myself on this.
Troubling problem would be the ENFPs dilemma where it is natural for ENFPs to love being around people, but yet crave for alone time much more than the average extrovert.
ENFPs also place great importance on personal freedom and self expression, and want to be able to go wherever that inspiration leads.
And therefore, according to the author, we are an exhausting personality to have, and here are some of our struggles that we would often face.
1. Getting your energy from social interaction, but disliking superficial conversations.
Yes I like parties, but a party full of contemplative people who want to alternate between taking shots and discussing the meaning of life can be quite an energy zapper!
The fun of it would be to sit and observe people. Observing people in a social setting is kind of a fun activity for me.
2. Being socially conscious but also fiercely individualistic.
This means always wanting to fit in with a group, but never wanting to compromise your personality to fit in.
3. The constant tug-of-war between 'YES! I WANT TO GO EXPERIENCE EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW!' and ' Wow, I need a lot of time to process these experiences, can I take a breather and just stone and recap for awhile?
4. Having a thousand great ideas that has never been followed through on.
:/
*guilty*
5. Regularly forgetting that your physical needs exist.
Yes, if I'm on work mode, we can forget about sleeping, eating and having a social life in general, until i'm done with what I need to do. I obsess over ideas, and if it needs to be worked out, its NOW. Not tomorrow, not later, not next year. Otherwise, it'll be scheduled to point 4, where it does not get a follow through on.
Hurhurhur.
6. Constantly contradiction yourself because you genuinely see multiple sides to most situation.
True. Working with me can be a nightmare, at the rate I change my mind and take on the situation from multi view. Its like watching a video on fast forward and rewind functions.
Tsk!
Sorry.
7. Stressing friends out and acquaintances who don't like straying from the original plan.
Oh my gosh, actually people like these would stress me out too, because I have to be boring and regimental with myself for them? :(
Imagine travelling with people that are from an alien tribe. For this, I am very selective with who I travel with or hang out with, for the sake of my own sanity.
8. Being a HUGE, UNSTOPPABLE FORCE of creativity and productivity an hour before the deadline. Oh yeah!
That's like the best motivation ever to see through a task. A Deadline.
Hahaha.
9. Getting bored 500 times faster than the average human being.
Hmmm true especially if i'm not doing what I want to do, I zone out and mentally entertaining myself with ideas and things I could do when i'm done with this boring shit...
Good thing is that, I rarely expose myself to activities that I dislike.
We are all masters of our own destiny, no?
10. Constantly biting off more than you can chew, and then chewing it out of stubbornness.
Well, no one's perfect right. Being stubborn can be a strength too alright!
With great powers comes great responsibilities. With great ideas, its the same too!
11. Working towards a constantly altering notion of your 'ideal self"
Yes I do that quite often. I am constantly in review of myself and personality and raising the expectations bar on myself. I sometimes also beat myself pretty bad and crawl into bed to hide feeling sad and under achieved and bounce back whenever I feel better and renewed.
12. When you have to complete a task that you simply cannot find a way to have fun.
Did I mention that ENFPs have an allergy to mundane and monotonous task?
It's painful.
13. Begrudgingly identifying Peter Pan as your spirit animal.
Well, I'm not a boy, but for someone who doesn't have to grow up and face adult problems, WHY NOT?
14. People underestimating your intelligence because you lead with the fun, upbeat parts of your personality.
Seriously, should I bore people with the mundane aspects of my life instead?
Example:
QN: how's life?
ANS: Oh I ate 2 nectarines and 3 kiwis and did not poop today.
I also ignored the dog for 2 hours because she was naughty and scratched my ass once, because i felt a little itch there.
Exciting much?
Hahahah, I find statements like this more bimbotic than anything else.
15. This appears to be similar to underestimating my intelligence, but 2 different points
Appearing shallow because of your tendency to flit from topic to topics in conversations with lightning speed. Now let's all refer to point 9 about being bored 500 times faster than most people.
Actually most people would just dismiss my inability to be still, as a hyper kid.
But hey! Like I said, my weakness and strengths is how one chooses to view it. Managing myself is the key.
I've been spring cleaning/ packing the house the past few days.
I essentially juggle between living room, dining room and bedroom.
My inability to focus on one location is bad, but hey! Shuffling between locations is a sort of focus too!
Hahaha.
Just that it drives my mom a little nuts to live with the mess everywhere.
*smirks*
But the end product = I get the job done, just differently.
Haha.
Ahh yes. I did mention a couple of times to many friends, and in a few of my older entries that I am vaguely schizo and autistic at times.
Le bestie Adi calls it my alone time.
He says its extremely evident whenever I embark on my infamous shopping trips.
I allow no one to follow, and disappears from the group with a *poof* and eventually return back with bags and bags rustling in my hands, beaming.
Funny things he observes.
I can't shop with people around (exceptions with a few special ones). What can I do about it??
A girl's gotta recharge when she needs to recharge.
I dont compromise on my values and beliefs. If I think i'm right, I will fight tooth, nail, claw and yank some hair out, to protect.
Refer to point 2 on this.
17. Staying in a bad relationship because you focus on how things COULD BE, rather than how they are.
Oh the besties are all gonna give me dirty eyes on this one if they could congregate and bitch about this one.
Despite the advise and perspectives shared, and as much as I know deep within that things aren't working out, I will still do what I need to do to convince myself on the eventual outcome, because in life it's all about the experience. Besides, Point 10 states that I'm stubborn and often chewing more than what I can chew.
Haha!
BUT when I finally decide to leave.
I am an unstoppable force on this one and I'll never look back.
*Oops*
18. Having a fiercely independent streak, but getting bored without company.
That's yin and yang in my world. Everything has an equilibrium.
Alone time. Friends time, all in moderation.
Simple.
19 . People thinking you're looking for advise, when in reality you simply need to process things out loud.
Yup. Guilty as charged.
20. Being a walking contradiction in almost every way, but knowing that you wouldn't change a thing, even if you could.
Because that's just the way I am.
Hurhurhur.
One more paradox, that is rarely mentioned about ENFPs.
Anger.
It's anger or no anger.
ENFPs have the natural instinct to suppress and internalise anger, and are mostly dormant in temperament, until decompression sets in, and wham!
Hot volcanic moltens can consume the entire village.
Claud calls it my 扮猪吃老虎 syndrome.
Which literally means acting like a pig, to eat the tiger.
A common way to describe someone who is seemingly nice and tame, but when necessary is capable of eating a tiger.
hurhurhur.
Scary stuff.
